We must choose between living a life based on our feelings
or one based on the facts of God.
You know how we women, often hope (maybe even crave) more peace, joy, and meaning in our work, relationships, and lives? But, shouldn’t we as Christians, already be the most joy, peace, and meaning-filled of women as we go through our days?
The answer is yes, of course! But are we? No. Quite often, we’re not. Because many times, we choose to live by our wrong thinking which results in life based on feelings that are contradictory to God’s facts.
Feelings and Facts Impact Our Decisions and Lives
Here’s the deal, feelings impact the choices we make and the actions we take – the way we spend our time, and the way we live our lives. It’s the same if we live according to God’s truth.
Whichever we choose, (feelings or facts), as our basis for making decisions, the decisions we make greatly impact the happiness, contentment, and sense of significance we experience in our lives.
So, to help ourselves create the life we desire—the one Christ died to give us, we must be able to discern whether or not our feelings of the moment, day, week or thus far in our lives line up with God’s truth.
If they do … we’re on a pathway to fulfillment no matter our circumstances. If our feelings don’t line up with the facts of God’s truth, then we spend precious time and frustration staying stuck, licking old wounds and shackled by fear, regret, and other lies.
3 Tips To Guide You To Facts Over Feelings
Most of us would agree, we wouldn’t want to stay in frustration – we want to live in hope. So to help you choose wisely, here are three tips to guide you to discern and elect the facts of God over feelings. Yes, just the facts, Ma’am.
- Pay Attention To Your Thoughts. In her book, Switch On Your Brain, Dr. Caroline Leaf explains that when you think, you also feel. Emotions are attached to your thoughts (this creates an attitude). Your attitude activates a positive or negative feeling. So when you change your thoughts, you change your attitude, and the resulting feeling and action will change, too.
In other words, think—on purpose, about what you hear, read, and see. Things to do that will help? Meditate on God’s word each day, listen to and sing hymns or contemporary Christian music – they’re full of God’s facts. The truth.
Be careful how you think;
your life is shaped by your thoughts.
What recurring, negative thoughts do you have that you will replace with a scriptural truth?
- Evaluate and Lead Your Thoughts and Feelings. As he was fully human, Jesus had feelings like yours and mine. Remember the two-word scripture – Jesus wept? (John 11:35) Or, how about when Jesus felt anger upon seeing the moneychangers in the Temple in Jerusalem? (Mark 11:15) Feelings are real and are part of how God designed us. But how often do we allow our mistaken thoughts and feelings lead us to make choices that don’t reflect the truth? What if you were to lead your thoughts and feelings rather than follow them? You know, what if you decide to intentionally think about what you think about before letting your feelings rule your actions?
Take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.
2 Corinthians 10:5
Be intentional about discerning and guiding your thoughts and feelings. Ask God to show you if they line up with his truth before you act.
- Consider Your Feelings to be Signposts. When we are going along our way to a given destination we use signs to help guide us. They tell us when and where to turn, they warn us of danger, and they tell us when to stop and go. They are meant to get us safely to our endpoint. But, sometimes even the signs can be confusing. Consider this: What if your feelings are signposts – indicators – reminding you to look to the Father for guidance? To ask him if you are to stop, go, turn around or heed a warning. His signs, his facts, are not confusing. After all, he has been preparing you for your unique path and he wants you to enjoy the journey and arrive well. Knowing, believing, and acting on truth – the facts of God – will get you to your destination.
Do what God tells you.
Walk in the paths he shows you:
Follow the life-map absolutely,
keep an eye out for the signposts.
1 Kings 2:3 MSG
What direction do your feelings have you turning? Do they bring joy and confidence to you and others? How might your days/life change if you consider your feelings to be signposts reminding you to look to God?
Name any thoughts or feelings you currently have that might be bringing the opposite of peace, joy, and meaning into your life. Be sure to answer the questions above and choose the facts of God.
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