Who am I? It seems like an easy enough question to answer. I’m a mother, a wife, a business owner, a student, a manager, a daughter, a leader.
While these answers are true and important they aren’t who you really are. They don’t define your true identity.
Neither do the enemy’s lies whispered to you about our worth, ability, and value.
It’s important to clear up the confusion about how you and I answer the Who am I—the true identity question. Why? Because your life depends on it.
The question of your true identity is not an inquiry into your responsibilities, status or how you spend your time. Instead, the question is really asking what you think—and then believe—to be true about the real, naked, deep-down you.
The you that you tell yourself and live believing you are.
Your Life Depends On What You Think
Your thoughts about your identity determine your choices. Your choices lead to action—or inaction. And your action or lack thereof decides the outcome of your moments and your days … ultimately creating the life you live.
Does that make sense?
In other words, what you think and believe about yourself is the foundation on which your life is built.
I spent enough years thinking and believing I was not good enough, rejected, overlooked, and unworthy to know this is a natural fact. I listened to the voice in my head repeating these lies off and on throughout my days.
Believing them stirred up fear and increased a sense of rejection, even as a “successful” wife, mom, and career gal. It kept me from participating in things that weren’t a sure win, from creating, growing, and strengthening relationships, from risking pretty much anything,
But God … He brought me to my knees through a variety of circumstances and I began to pay attention to and desperately desire to hear his voice. The voice that spoke to me from his Word and resonated in my long-ignored Spirit. The voice that answered the most important of all questions—a question I didn’t even know I had but Jesus knew I needed to address: Who am I?
I sought and heard the voice that began to transform my life as I became thirsty—desperate to spend time with him, wanting to know him. He taught me the truth of who I am. He changed my thinking from the life-depleting voice of the enemy to the life-giving voice of his Spirit.
The greatest danger to our soul is not success or status or superiority – but self-lies. When you listen to the self-lies hissing that you’re unlovable, unacceptable, unwanted, that’s when you go seeking your identity in success or status or superiority and not in your Savior. Self-lies are the destroyer of the soul because they drown out the sacred voice that can never stop whispering your name: Beloved.
Ann Voskamp, The Broken Way
Who Am I? I Am Beloved.
What I have learned is that as a Christ-follower, being desperate for God and taking time to ask the question—Who Am I … really?—and listen to, believe, and live according to what he has to say about your identity (and mine) provides the only true answer and way forward into the life he designed you to live … your calling … your purpose.
And what does your Father say? He says you are his beloved child.
You are beloved.
See what kind of love the Father has given to us,
that we should be called children of God; and so we are.
The reason why the world does not know us is that it did not know him.
Beloved, we are God’s children now, and what we will be has not yet appeared;
but we know that when he appears we shall be like him, because we shall see him as he is.
1 John 3:1-2 ESV
Your only role in this? Let yourself be loved as God’s chosen and created child.
You get to choose. Will you believe the lies the enemy whispers? The ones intended to shame and cause you to hide behind a less-than life? Or will you listen to the Father of your very breath who gave everything to be with you?
Will you allow yourself to think and believe you are … deeply loved … beloved?
Will you then choose to live that way?
Journal your response to the questions above. How might knowing and intentionally thinking and choosing to remember you are God’s chosen, created, and beloved child as you go about your day affect your response to negative circumstances such as human rejection and failure? How will choosing to think and believe the truth affect the way you live your life?
What next step will you take to be intentional about your thought-life and living iinto your true identity?
I’d love it if you’d share your comments.
And if you feel empty, like something is missing or like you’ve lost your identity and don’t know God’s purpose for your life—if you have a deep desire to fulfill his calling for your life, please contact me here. My God-designed purpose is to help you know and live yours!